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Articles from Sara L. Collins of MaleChastityLifestyle.com

My name is Mistress Sara, and I am a professional dominatrix who also works with married couples to enhance their relationship. Whenever I interact with a couple looking to bring intimacy back into their marriage or make their sex life better, I always recommend male chastity. 

Quite frankly, I believe all husbands should be locked up and their wives should help enforce their good behavior. I think it leads to a much more loving and close long-term relationship. Giving up control of his sexuality to his wife is part of the bonding process for the couple. 

Left to their own devices, most husbands will become lazy, waste their libido masturbating, be prone to cheating and act selfishly in bed. When placed under lock and key they will do anything they can to please their wives, become better lovers, have no ability to cheat and break themselves of their silly little masturbation habit. 

But, I do recognize that the male chastity lifestyle is a process, not a single action. You can’t simply lock your husband up and expect things to change right away. It took him years to develop into the man he is today; it will also take time for him to evolve into the wonderful husband you know he can be. 

Since I understand that most couples can’t afford to hire a professional dominatrix like myself to guide them at the start, I’ve decided to use this space to give some basic male chastity advice for newbies to the lifestyle. 

• Understand that it will take time to adjust to male chastity. This is why it is often referred to as male chastity “training.” At first you’ll probably only want to lock him up for a couple days at a time so he can get used to it. Then, you can start locking him up for longer periods of time. Of course, eventually the goal is for him to have sexual release only nine to 12 times a year; but you’ll have to build up to that.
• Hygiene is very important. You will have to help him keep his little naughty bits clean, or he will be prone to chafing and infection. At first you may also want to put moisturizer into the device while his skin adapts to its caged destiny. 
• You need to let him know he is loved and appreciated. Otherwise, it will just seem like you are mean and uncaring. Kiss him randomly. Praise him for his devotion to you. Walk around in sexy outfits. Keep him turned on, even when he can’t come out and play. 
• Don’t let him whine about being locked up. Otherwise he’ll drive you insane with his bitching. The best way to do this is to wait until the first time he complains, and then explain he’s now earned himself another three days in male chastity. He’ll learn his lesson soon enough. 
• Just because he’s having fewer orgasms doesn’t mean your sex life is over. Make him use his mouth, fingers and sex toys to bring you to orgasm on a regular basis. Let him know this is one of the ways that he can earn his freedom. 
• Don’t go back on your word. If you tell him he’s going to be locked up for three days, make him be locked up for three days. Don’t let yourself “feel sorry” for him. It’s for the good of your relationship! 
• If he needs to be punished, let the punishment fit the crime. Don’t be too severe just because you now have the power in the relationship. 
• Communicate regularly how each of you feels about this new element in your relationship. Both of you should be willing to compromise until you find the right way to incorporate male chastity into your relationship. 

There you go! Hopefully, I have addressed some of your most important concerns about the male chastity lifestyle. I strongly urge both you and your partner to embrace male chastity before his immature urges ruin your long-term relationship or marriage.

How To Get Your Wife To Be A Male Chastity Mistress

 Hi. My name is Mistress Sara, and I am a professional dominatrix. I’m also a firm believer in the concept of enforced male chastity in any long-term committed relationship. My experience with men and couples over the years has taught me that nearly all marriages benefit from male chastity belt training - and most relationships are at risk as long as the male partner is not under lock and key. 

What may surprise you is that it’s not always the wife’s idea to lock up her man. Sometimes it’s the man who desires to lose his freedom and turn his wife into his own male chastity mistress. 

But, more often than not the man is terrified about explaining his desires to his wife. He worries that she’ll think he’s weird or kinky. And they know their wives may have never heard of the male chastity lifestyle, or have any idea what it means to be a male chastity mistress. 

What’s sad is that it’s not kinky to want her to be in charge of your sexuality. It’s perfectly normal and a sign that you are deeply committed to your relationship. That’s why I want to spend some time explaining to you how to get your wife to be your male chastity mistress. 

• Explain to her that this is not something kinky. Tell her it’s because you love her and think it will bring you closer together. 
• Find some erotic male chastity stories that are somewhat realistic and romantic, and show them to her. Perhaps the two of you can read them together as foreplay. 
• Tell her that you are concerned you are not being the best husband you can be. Explain to her that male chastity is about her feelings and not yours. 
• Show her some of the many articles online that explain that male chastity is romantic and designed to ensure you will stay together forever. Tell her you want this because you value your relationship and want to grow old with her. 
• Be honest and tell her exactly how often you masturbate. Explain to her that you can’t help it, and let her know how ashamed you are. Mention that you think about other women when you do it, but you want to only think of her whenever you are sexually stimulated. 
• Let her know that you are sometimes tempted to stray. Reassure her that you don’t really want to stray, but confess that you are weak -- as all men are. Tell her you are worried that if you are not locked up, you will one day cheat on her and ruin your relationship. 
• If you have a small penis, tell her you want to learn other ways to please her that don’t involve penetration. Explain that as long as your penis is free, you are driven to mount her -- even though you know she’d be much happier with hours of oral sex. 
• Remind her that once you are locked up, she’ll never have to give you a blowjob again. Tell her you’ve had enough, and it’s time for you to be the one on your knees. 
• Explain that once you are locked up you’ll be motivated to do more around the house -- and ask her what chores she would like you to take over once you are in chastity.
• Discuss how you’ll be forced to sit down to pee while locked up, and how this will make your bathroom floor much cleaner. 
• She should know that once you are locked up she would be in control of the situation. If she only wants you locked up for a few hours at a time, that’s fine. If she wants you locked up for months, you’ll also agree to that. The point is she has to understand she can make the rules and keep you in chastity any way that feels comfortable for her. 
• Tell her this doesn’t mean she has to give up penetration. Talk to her about how it can actually make penetrative sex hotter for both of you. 
• Finally, and this is the most important part, tell her how much you love her and that you desire this because of your deep and abiding adoration of her. 

If you have this full discussion with her, she should feel much more comfortable with the idea of being your male chastity mistress. Remember, the key is to be honest and open -- and don’t forget to let her know how much of your libido you waste masturbating! Soon, you’ll have the male chastity mistress you’ve always wanted.

Enforced Male Chastity

Hello, my lovely doms in waiting and beautiful little worms! This is Mistress Sarah again, back to talk to you today about the concept of enforced male chastity. One of the biggest decisions you’ll have to make if you decided to enter into a male chastity relationship is whether or not you want to use enforced male chastity or simple chastity play.

This is confusing for many people – after all, doesn’t male chastity imply some sort of enforcement by definition? The answer is, not really. We are all different and have different levels of comfort with our dominance and submission. So, let’s start off with some basic definitions:

• Simple Male Chastity. This is male chastity belt play light. The male is put into chastity at the beginning of the evening before foreplay begins. Then he is kept in the cage while the couple makes out and until the woman has had her orgasm or is seeking penetration. At this point he is released and they make love. This is one of the most popular forms of chastity play, and is highly recommended for beginners.
• Enforced Male Chastity. This, in my humble opinion, should be the end goal of all chastity play. While you may have to build up to it, the rewards for the woman are much, much greater than simple male chastity. Under this arrangement the male is kept in chastity at all times, day and night, except when the woman is prepared to give him release or make love. More often than not the male will have to earn his release – because, quite naturally, he can use his mouth and fingers to provide her orgasms while still remaining locked up. One of the simplest ways to have an enforced male chastity relationship is to start out with short periods of time between his orgasms – say, once a week – and then build up to longer times. I have found the best results come when the male is allowed roughly seven to 14 orgasms a year. In other words, he’s let out to play about every four weeks – though sometimes less often.

The benefits of enforced male chastity are immense. First, masturbation will become a thing of the past and all of his sexual energy will be focused on you. Plus, you will never, ever have to worry about him cheating on you again.

Beyond that, you can set up any system of rewards you want in order to get him to earn his release – and trust me, a man who has been locked up for a while will do anything to get a chance to let his little cockette breathe in the open air! Make him do your laundry and the dishes. Have him make the bed every morning. From now on, he can handle the grocery shopping!

This also gives you the chance to correct behavior that has been bothering you. For example, you could tell him that if he leaves his dirty clothes on the floor he will earn an extra day in chastity. If he decides to go out with his friends that could mean an extra three days. If he wants your mother-in-law to visit, he should certainly be willing to put up with an extra six weeks in the cage!

Over time, the series of rewards and punishments associated with enforced male chastity will turn your husband into the best man he can be. You can literally train him to do anything once you have control over his cock!

The important thing is that you really have to mean it! Men will often beg and plead and come up with excuses to get you to unlock them. Don’t feel bad for him or give in – or else you will have undone all the good work you’ve put your time and effort into.

Also, be aware that after his release, when he has had his orgasm, he may revert to bad behavior for a short period of time. His ejaculation will fuel his manly ego. This is why you need to get the cage back onto him as quickly as possible, so that he gets back into his proper place in the marriage.

Considering Male Chastity Long Term?

Long term male chastity, when enforced by a loving mistress, can be an essential component of any successful long-term relationship.

All women know that men cannot be trusted to make the best sexual choices for themselves and their partners. They simply lack the basic self-control required to live up to their marital responsibilities. That’s why they need our loving guidance if they are going to become the type of husbands we expect and deserve.

Beyond that, most men are ashamed of the way they behave sexually. They know that looking at porn if they are in a committed relationship is wrong, but they can’t help themselves. They know that masturbating every day while thinking about other women is no different than cheating on their wives, but their biology forces them to do it anyway. That’s why they are generally grateful when their wives make the right decision and put them in enforced male chastity.

When male chastity becomes your lifestyle choice, everybody wins. That said, there are two different types of male chastity you can try, and it’s a good idea to figure out which one will best serve your needs.

The first is short-term male chastity. Under this arrangement, the man is locked up for a day or two at a time and then unleashed when his wife wants to make love. This is an excellent way for a woman to make sure he will not masturbate or be in any way unfaithful to her – and it is a good solution for a woman who gets her primary sexual satisfaction from penetrative sex.

There is, however, another version of the lifestyle available to you: male chastity, long-term. In this case, the man is locked up for a month or more at a time before he is given release. In some cases, in fact, he is never allowed to have an orgasm again, and instead is “milked” so that he can ejaculate without orgasm several times a year.

So, why would a woman consider long-term instead of short-term male chastity? There are several reasons:

If your climaxes come primarily from oral or digital stimulation. For many women, intercourse will never give them an orgasm.  By placing your husband in chastity, he will become more aware of your needs and be a more sensitive lover, finding other ways to please you. 

If you want to bring romance back into your marriage. The fewer orgasms he has, the more romantic he will behave towards you.  He will learn that your pleasure inevitably will lead to his pleasure.

If his penis is smaller than average – he will learn to please you in so many other ways which will give him more confidence and allow him to forget about his inadequate package.  Sex toys can offer endless possibilities for pleasure if penetration is a must.

If you want him to do more chores around the house. Being locked up will give him a ton of energy that he’ll need to direct somewhere. Why not have him use it to do the dishes and clean the bathroom?

If he has ever cheated on you. It goes without saying that if he has cheated on you, there is no reason he should be allowed regular sexual release. 

If you have already had enough children. Making intercourse a thing of the past means you won’t have to worry about the side effects of oral contraceptives or the chance of a condom breaking anymore. 

If he is a quick shooter. Men suffering from this problem will to learn to please you with their mouths and fingers.  It will be a relief to them to discover that you can be pleasured without any focus on his shortcomings.

Male chastity is not a selfish or one-sided lifestyle.  There are many benefits for both men and women.   These are just a few of the things you should think about if you are considering long-term male chastity.  It could be extremely pleasurable and beneficial to you both!

Using Male Chastity Stories To Break The Ice With Your Partner

As male chastity becomes more and more popular, many men and women know it is the right choice for their marriage. But, they worry about how to approach their partner with the subject. After all, none of us wants our spouse to think we are kinky or weird!

That said, bringing up male chastity could be a crucial step in making any marriage stronger. That’s why it’s important to find a way to break the ice and get your partner comfortable with the idea. 

Trust me; once you start heading down this path, you’ll discover that your marriage will greatly improve! Over the years, I’ve found the best way to start the discussion of male chastity is to use male chastity stories.

There are many of them available online, although the largest and best collection of them is available at Altar Boy’s site, (http://www.tpe.com/~altarboy/fiction.htm) so that’s a great place to start. 

You can go about this in several ways. If you are shy, you could simply say to your husband or wife, “Hey, I found this interesting site – check it out!” Act like you just think it’s silly at first. The important thing is to get the seed planted. Later, you can ask him or her if there was any story they particularly liked. A day or two later, you could mention that you found a story you liked and ask him or her to read it.

Then, suggest that it might be fun to “pretend” to live out the scenarios in the stories. Over time, the idea will become more comfortable and you can suggest “experimenting” with real chastity for a weekend or two. In no time flat, it will seem normal and you’ll have no problem making it a reality.

If you and your spouse are already sexually adventurous, you could suggest reading erotic stories to each other as a form of foreplay - and every so often, select a male chastity belt story. Over time, pick those stories more and more often. This is a great way to use male chastity belt stories as a way to make the lifestyle seem as normal and natural as it really is! 

Of course, when you read these stories you need to keep in mind that they are meant as fantasy. Not all of the scenarios described are a good idea in real life. For example: 

• Many male chastity belt stories have the man end up in permanent chastity from the day he first puts the thing on. In real life, you’ll have to train him. At the start he may be only able to wear it for a week at a time. That’s normal. Don’t let it bother you.
• Other male chastity stories feature the man never getting to ejaculate again. This is not a good idea. For his health, he needs to ejaculate every four weeks or so. But, you’ll discover this can be made to happen without him having an orgasm at all.
•  Some stories have the man belted against his will while sleeping. This would be a violation of the trust in your relationship, and should be avoided. 
• Most stories neglect to mention the personal hygiene aspects of long-term male chastity. Before you make male chastity a part of your lives, you need to educate yourself about how to keep things clean and healthy down there to avoid infection.
• A lot of the male chastity belt stories assume that female domination has to be a factor in the male chastity lifestyle. This simply isn’t true. While femdom can certainly be a part of it, it doesn’t have to be. You can get most of the benefits of male chastity without abusing your man.

Erotic Male Chastity Stories

Hello. This is Mistress Sarah, your guide through the wonderful world of male chastity. Today, I’d like to talk to you about male chastity stories. If you search the web, you’ll find hundreds of them.

The largest selection can be found at Altar Boy’s site, but you can also discover many more male chastity stories at Literotica.com and Asstr.org.

Reading stories is often a great way for a couple to introduce male chastity into their marriage. If the husband is interested in male chastity, he may show them to his wife as a way to reveal his deepest fantasies. If the wife is interested in chastising her husband, she may point him to stories so he can come to understand her desires.

Either way, reading male chastity belt stories allows a couple to become comfortable with male chastity before it becomes a real part of their relationship. You’ll discover that there are all types of erotic fiction related to male chastity.

You’ll find ones that deal with the woman forcing him into chastity. There are others where he is tricked into it. In still more, the man himself is the one begging for his wife to become his key holder. Some of the stories are extreme; some are romantic.

The important thing to remember is that these are simply stories. What goes on in erotic fiction rarely resembles what happens in real life. So, don’t let the stories you read build up your expectations too fast.

In the real world, things don’t go as smoothly as they do in the stories. Your man may not be able to handle real chastity for long periods of time at first. You may have to build him up to it. The first chastity belt your purchase may not quite fit him, and he may be able to escape.

You may not understand his frustration threshold and push him too far. In many male chastity belt stories, the wife locks up her husband for a year or more the first time she puts the device on him. In reality, this would almost never work – as it would be too much of a shock to the system.

Remember, the entire point of male chastity is that men have problems controlling themselves. If they didn’t, you wouldn’t need to lock his cockette up in the first place!

This is why you can’t take male chastity belt stories too seriously. Don’t fixate on any one story or particular fantasy. Instead, use the stories as inspiration for you to experiment so you can find out what works for you.

You have all the time in the world, and there will always be a few mistakes and miscues along the way. What you can do is ask your partner to point out the stories that turn him or her on the most.

Then, figure out what it is about those stories that are stroking their libido – and try to make that a part of your male chastity belt play. For example, some men are interested in male chastity because they want to feel that their penis is too small for their wife. If that’s the case, be sure to come up with a little pet name for his penis that is slightly humiliating. Then comment that if he were a real man, you wouldn’t have to lock him up at all!

On the other hand, if you are the man and notice that it’s the power she can get from keeping you locked up, be sure to play on those fantasies. Get on your hands and knees and rub her feet while she holds the key above you. Ask her if there are chores you can do around the house to earn your release from chastity.

This way, you can make male chastity belt stories not only an introduction to the lifestyle, but also as a continuing guide as you get deeper and deeper into the delights of blissful denial.

In other words, keep an open mind – even if you have a locked cock!

Basic Male Chastity Guide

Hello again! This is Mistress Sarah, and I remain your faithful guide through the world of male chastity. If you are reading this you are either a superbly submissive man who wants to bring up the idea of male chastity to his wife, or you are a delightfully dominant woman who has realized her man needs training.

Either way, you desire information on the wonderful world of male chastity and how it can be incorporated into your relationship. I understand. Every day, I get emails asking me about male chastity.

For a perfect understanding of the lifestyle, I recommend my guide, Beautiful Enslavement. It has everything you ever wanted to know about male chastity but were afraid to ask! But, I understand that some of you are not ready for that much information.

You may simply be curious about exploring your fantasies. Or, your partner may have mentioned the idea of male chastity; and you want to know a few of the ground rules before you decide if it is right for you

That’s fine – and it is the reason why I’m willing to let you in on some of the basic lessons of male chastity. Therefore, today I’m going to provide you with a basic male chastity guide that should answer some of your questions.

Q. Why would I want to lock up my husband’s penis?

A. Quite simply, because men can’t control themselves. He is masturbating much more than you think, and he really should be saving up that passion for you. Once you control his ability to orgasm, all of his sexual energy will be directed at you. It will be like you are dating again! Plus, shouldn’t he act like a man and make love to his wife, rather than play with his pee-pee like a little boy?

Q. How long should I keep him locked up?

A. That’s entirely up to you! Most couples start out locking him up for two or three days at a time and then build up to a week or more. Obviously, any time you want to make use of his penis, you can let him out – as long as that’s your decision and not his!

Q. Won’t I miss out on sex if he’s locked up?

A. No. Not at all. You’ll probably end up having more orgasms with him than ever before. You’d be amazed at how skilled he becomes at oral sex if he realizes that he needs to make you cum before he can have his fun. Plus, you are in control and can unlock him whenever you like. Finally, you can get attachments that are exact replicas of his penis to put on the belt so that you can feel the sensations of his penetration, without letting him out of his cage.

Q. Could chastity hurt my husband?

A. Not really. Men do need to ejaculate every so often for their prostrate health, but there are ways to make this happen without releasing him from chastity or giving him an orgasm. I discuss those methods in my book. If you don’t keep his tube or cage clean, there is some risk of infection – but you can easily ice him down and bathe his penis every week or two to avoid this risk. Also, some male chastity belts have small holes that allow him to clean his penis without releasing it.

Q. Could male chastity hurt my marriage?

A. Absolutely not! If anything, it will bring love and romance back to your relationship! He’ll start buying you flowers and taking you out to dinner again. He’ll stop hanging out with the boys and spend all his time with you. He’ll take over lots of your chores around the house. He’ll hug and kiss you more than he has in years. And, best of all, he’ll do everything in his power to keep you constantly sexually satisfied! What could be better than that?

Q. What do I do if I put him in chastity and then he begs to get out?

A. Ignore him. Men can be wimps sometimes; but with training they will get used to it. Lots of men ask for chastity and then after an hour or two decide it’s too frustrating. This is not your problem. Once he’s agreed to be locked up, make him stick to his agreement. It won’t hurt him. If you really need to shut him up because he’s annoying you, tell him that the more he complains, the longer you’ll keep him locked up.

Benefits Of Male Chastity

Welcome back to Mistress Sarah’s wonderful world of male chastity – where I take the time to give you the basics of male chastity. Of course, if you are really interested in the lifestyle you should read my book “Beautiful Enslavement,” which covers everything you’ve ever wanted to know about male chastity but your spouse was afraid to ask.

Over the years, the question I’ve gotten the most often from both men and women is, “What are the benefits of male chastity?” After all, it takes a bit of time, effort and expense and you want a return on that investment.

The truth is there are so many benefits it would take pages and pages to go into them all; but I can tell you a bit about the most important ones, so you can make the responsible decision to make male chastity a part of your relationship.

Men: Let’s start with the good stuff – while you will have considerably less orgasms, the ones you do have will be much, much more intense than anything you have ever before experienced. When you ejaculate every day, your penis becomes less sensitive. Plus, you build up a tolerance to the chemicals that are released during orgasm. This means you get less pleasure than you should. If you have enough self-control to become a responsible man and only orgasm every four or five weeks, you’ll get a much better rush – as nature intended. Beyond that, being in chastity will force you to find new ways to please your wife, which means you will become a much better lover. She’ll probably brag to her friends about how wonderful you are in bed! Won’t that be nice? You’ll become much more understanding of her body and her needs, and she will appreciate you and love you for it. Last but not least, you’ll free yourself from the shame of masturbation and no longer feel like a little boy who plays with his cock, but, instead, like a man who makes love to his woman!

Women: I suggest male chastity to any woman I know who is in a serious relationship with a man. There is no downside; and – to be honest – as long as your man is not locked up, your relationship is in jeopardy. Every single day that your man has control of his penis, he is masturbating while thinking about other women. Don’t you think that’s wrong? While he’s free he also has the chance to cheat on you – an option that almost half of all married men take advantage of. Do you really want to risk having a little tramp break up your marriage simply because your husband – like most men – has no self-control? Beyond that, it will make you relationship stronger and more romantic. Remember how he treated you when you were dating? Did you notice that once he “had” you and felt like he could make love to you anytime he wanted that he started being less romantic – and, often, less interested in sex? That’s because men are hard wired to conquer women sexually. If they think they can’t have us, they want us. If they know they can have us, they take us for granted. Therefore, the best way to turn him back into a romantic partner is to make sure that he knows he can’t have you – or any other woman – until you decide he’s earned it. This leads to all sorts of side benefits because you can use the carrot and stick approach of male chastity to get him to do chores around the house, rub your feet, take you out to dinner and buy you nice jewelry. He may never spend time out with the boys that should have been spent with you again!

Couples: The main benefit for any couple in a long-term relationship is that male chastity is simply the right thing to do. He’s made a vow to be faithful to you. As long as he is free, he will either be cheating on you with himself while masturbating – or with other women – or men. Men cannot control themselves and once they have pledged themselves to a woman have no right to sexual freedom. They simply can’t handle it.

Ultimate Male Chastity Advice

Hello my little worms and darling wives! This is Mistress Sarah again, bringing you another installment of advice about the wonderful and natural world of male chastity. I’m here to give you advice and in this edition, I’m going to do so by responding to most frequently answered questions I’ve received over the years.

So, here we go with Mistress Sarah’s Ultimate Male Chastity Advice!

Q: Is male chastity a new thing? If so, how can we be sure it’s stood the test of time?

A. Male chastity is hardly new! In fact, sexual freedom for males is a modern mistake. For example, in Victorian times most upper class married males wore male chastity devices and were only released when their wives decided they wanted to have a baby. They believed that masturbation or too frequent ejaculation during intercourse made them weaker men (and they were right!). They would then provide oral or manual stimulation to their wives for their needs – or the wives would go to doctors and be treated several times a week with “hysteria machines,” which were essentially early vibrators.

Q. My husband has been in chastity for five days and says he can’t take it anymore! He claims it’s hurting him! What should I do? Perhaps he can’t handle chastity?

A. This is one of the most common male chastity advice questions I get and has the easiest response: Ignore him. Chastity won’t hurt him – he’s just being a big baby. If he bitches and moans too much, tell him he’s just earned an extra week in chastity. That will shut him up.

Q. I’ve tried to bring up the idea of male chastity with my wife and she’s not into it. What can I do?

A. Tell her honestly how much you masturbate, start making comments about a pretty girl at work and then give her a copy of my book “Beautiful Enslavement.” You’ll be locked up – like you should be – by the end of the month.

Q. I’ve been thinking about male chastity since I caught my husband masturbating while looking at porn on the computer. But, he swears it’s the first time he’s touched himself since we were married. What should I do?

A. Lock him up right away! He’s lying to you! Most men masturbate every day if they are not locked up. Some do it as many as five times a day! If you let him keep lying to you and touching his toot-toot, you’ll lose respect for him.

Q. How long should I keep my husband locked up?

A. This is really a matter of personal preference. In general, start out with short periods of time and then build up from there. I’ve found that a man is best behaved when he has less than 10 orgasms a year, though I know some friends who let their husband orgasm as much as 14 times a year and are still able to keep him under their thumbs.

Q. I know I need to keep my husband locked up, but I miss penetration! Please help me!

A. You have several options. You can get a chastity device that will allow you to attach a realistic dildo shaped like his penis. Then he can use that to penetrate you without getting release. You can also take his belt off for a short period of time and allow him to penetrate you, but then stop and lock him up again before he orgasms. Or, you can do what I do and find a young virile lover.

There are the basics. For more male chastity advice – and comprehensive information – I suggest purchasing my book, Beautiful Enslavement!   It will help you understand why his satisfaction is not guaranteed!

Size Matters: What To Do If Your Man Is Hung Like A Little Boy

Hi, this is Mistress Sara again, and I want to talk today about a “little” problem most of us women will face at one point in our lives. Love is a funny thing. It can make us fall for guys we’d never have thought we’d have to deal with in our lives.

Sometimes the man is outside our educational level. Sometimes he might not be buff but melt our heart with his sense of humor. And, sometimes he’ll be nearly perfect in every way – until we get him into the bedroom.

That’s when we’ll discover he has a tiny penis.

When that happens, we’ll probably still love him. Sure, we may respect him a little less as a man, and sex won’t be that exciting, but if our feelings are strong enough for him, we may decide to stay and see if we can work things out. After all, when it comes to love, little things can mean a lot.

That’s why I decided to put together a set of tips of what to do when you find yourself dating or married to a man who looks like a little boy as soon as he takes his pants off.

• Try to focus more on oral sex and less on traditional sex. Remember it’s much easier to give a blow job to a small guy than a large dude. Also, when he’s going down on you, it won’t matter if he’s Tiny Tim.
• Joke about his size with your girlfriends. Laughter will make you feel less ashamed about having a sexually inadequate partner.
• Find out if you can cultivate a cuckolding fetish. A cuckold wants you to tell him his penis is too small and will want you to play with more well endowed men once in a while. This becomes a win/win situation for both of you.
• If he doesn’t have a cuckold fetish, cheat on him when you can get away with it. Face it, as a woman you deserve a real cock attached to a real man every so often. If the Bill of Rights were written by a woman, this would have been included as the 11th Amendment.
• Experiment with different positions. If you allow his small penis to penetrate you, try doggy style. He’ll feel a little bigger. Of course, if he’s really small, and you don’t want him to penetrate you with his penis at all, I fully understand. In that case, you might want to consider keeping his teeny weeny locked in male chastity.
• Consider a penis extender. Available in most sex toy shops, these devices go over his penis and make him man sized. Many of them feel very realistic, so you can just close your eyes and pretend he’s a real man.
• Have him shave his pubes. This way, he’ll at least look bigger.
• If you are bisexual, fantasize that he’s your lesbian lover. If you feel like you are having lesbian sex, you won’t expect your partner to have a huge wang. If you need to, make him put on panties and a camisole before you start to enhance the illusion.
• Anal sex. He’ll feel bigger to you, and you’ll seem tighter to him when you take it in the back door. Anal sex is one of the only times when it’s a good thing if a man comes up short. Many women report “deeper” orgasms from anal sex. This could be your chance to find out if you are one of those frisky females.
• Lots of fingering. With three fingers inside you and his thumb on your magic button, you may not care if he has a penis at all.
• Avoid penetration or go on hormonal birth control. The sad fact is that if he’s small, the odds of the condom slipping off are fairly high. You don’t want to face an accidental pregnancy from bad sex simply because he’s not very manly below the waist.

Male Chastity Punishment

Many people understand the basics of male chastity, which is why male chastity devices are among the most popular sex toys sold in America today. From a simple point of view, male chastity involves putting him in a device that makes it impossible for him to have an erection or ejaculate until you unlock him.

This frees him from the temptation to masturbate, or waste time with online porn like a teenage boy. It also encourages him to do things to please you both in and out of the bedroom, so he will be able to earn his release. Remember, a man’s primary desire is to achieve orgasm. This is more important than food – so he will be willing to do anything for you, as soon as you get him under lock and key. 

But, there is much more to the male chastity lifestyle than simply locking him up and throwing away the key. You need to tease him. You need to make him feel loved. And sometimes, when a man is in male chastity, you will need to punish him.

Male chastity is a training exercise that you are doing for his own good. Think of him as a child – he needs rewards when he’s been a good boy, and punishment when he’s been naughty. Over time, this will allow him to learn not to be naughty and to become the best husband possible. 

In short, you can’t have the carrot without the stick! Which brings up the question of, what punishments are appropriate for a bad boy who is in male chastity? The truth is that the answer will depend on the couple and the severity of the infraction. But, here are the punishments I generally give my husband for various infractions:

• If he asks to be let out of male chastity or complains about male chastity. In this case I simply add another week in the device for every complaint or request that he makes. This shuts him up.
• If you find evidence that he has tried to tamper with or escape the device. This is a more serious infraction. In this case I add a full month to his chastity and spank his ass with my hairbrush 10 times.
• If you catch him looking at porn. This cannot be tolerated at all. For this I get a bowl of ice, and then I unlock him from his chastity device. I provide him manual stimulation until he is just about to orgasm. At that point I put ice on his penis and lock him back up. Ruining his potential orgasm this way is a lesson he will not soon forget.
• If you catch him flirting with another woman either online or in real life. Obviously this is a big no-no. In my opinion, a woman has two choices here depending on how dominant she feels. If you are a dominant woman you can unlock him, stimulate him and then pour hot candle wax on his penis. If you are less dominant you can simply tell him he has earned a full six months in chastity. If you are very, very dominant you can make him choose between the two punishments.
• If you catch him having cybersex. Since he can’t have real sex, this is the closest thing to cheating he can do. There is only one acceptable punishment – a full year without a single orgasm.

Male Chastity Punishment (2)

Welcome back to Mistress Sarah’s wonderful world of male chastity! In most of these articles, I’ve spent time talking about the benefits of male chastity. But, I should tell you that it’s not all fun and games. In fact, there can be no benefit to male chastity without punishment.

That’s why this edition will be dedicated to the basics of male chastity punishment. Don’t be scared. Remember, men are happiest when they are submitting to the woman they love. They are at their most miserable when they have freedom. But they live in denial and will try to get that freedom, even though they know deep down inside that they were born to submit.

You need to instill male chastity punishment as a way to correct this behavior and guide them to the incredible bliss that a man can only achieve when he has completely given up his sexuality to his partner.

The first question you will probably ask is, what exactly is male chastity punishment? At its most basic level, it is correcting your husband when he misbehaves in chastity. The easiest and most common male chastity punishment is to simply extend his chastity for extra days or weeks for each infraction. Because he will be desperate for release, this will work fairly well.

If he has been particularly bad, a more harsh form of male chastity punishment is the “ruined orgasm.” For this you need your key and a bowl of ice. Take him out of his cage and start masturbating him. Then, when he is very close to orgasm, take the ice and apply it to his cock. Then, lock him up again. He’ll have gotten close to orgasm but missed his chance. His frustration level will go sky high!

The ultimate form of male chastity punishment – and one that should only be used when there are serious infractions – is to show him exactly what he is missing. Find an ex-boyfriend or another man you want to make love with and bring him home; make your husband watch him penetrate you while he remains helplessly locked up. If you do this, it may be weeks before he misbehaves again!

Your next question will be: When do I institute male chastity punishment? This one is tricky, because, face it: Men are only human, and very weak creatures. There will probably be – especially at the start – many things he does every day that annoy you. You can’t waste time punishing him for every little disappointment.

But there are some things that always need to be punished, so let’s go over the basics:

• If he asks to be let out of his cage early. He shouldn’t be asking at all! That’s up to you! If you let him whine once, he’ll whine forever. Each time he complains, you should add at least one more day to his chastity.
• If you catch him looking at porn. This cannot be tolerated at all. If you catch him once, add at least a week onto his confinement as part of his male chastity punishment.
• If a specific chore is not done and he does not have a valid excuse. Again, if you let him get away with this once, he’ll never be a good boy. This should add a week of chastity onto his schedule.
• If he tries, but fails, to give you an orgasm with his mouth and fingers. He needs to learn how to please you without his cock. Any day he can’t is an extra day he should be kept in chastity.
• If you discover any attempt on his part to escape from the device. This is a big sin, and is one of the times I highly recommend giving him a ruined orgasm.

There it is – the basics of male chastity punishment! To learn more, please consider ordering my book, Beautiful Enslavement. It’s quite simply the right thing to do if you are serious about your relationship.

What Is Tease And Denial?

Each and every day, your husband is being unfaithful to you – usually by masturbating while thinking of another woman or looking at porn. Every time he does so, he is using up part of his libido that should properly be directed at his loving wife. Beyond that, most men cannot resist temptation and if some hussy makes a move on him, he may be unable to resist. 

The only way to protect against these very real dangers to your marriage is to make it impossible for him to masturbate or cheat on you in any other way. This is accomplished by locking him up with a male chastity device, and hiding the key or keeping it on you at all times. 

When done correctly, this will not only make it impossible for him to get an erection or ejaculate without your permission; it will also turn him into a better husband! He’ll be more likely to help out around the house, he won’t want to waste time with his friends and he will become more romantic. 

Of course, this doesn’t happen simply by locking him up. You have to also take action to train him. This process is often called “tease and denial” and it works on a very simple principle. You see, when a man is very sexually excited he is naturally programmed to do anything he can to achieve orgasm and ejaculation. 

This means you can get him to make the responsible choices every woman wants her man to make, instead of the childish ones men tend to make on their own, as long as you are using tease and denial.

So, how do you do this? The first thing you need to do is wait until he is locked up, and then become as sexy as possible. Rub your breasts by his shoulders when you pass him in the hall. Walk around the house wearing sexy underwear. Kiss him deeply often.

Ask him to go down on you and tell him that if your orgasm is satisfactory in intensity, you might let him out of his male chastity belt. All of these things will keep him in a constant state of arousal that he can do nothing about.

When he’s in this state, every part of his psychology will tell him to do what you want him to do if it even gives him a small chance at sexual release. So, you can ask him to do the dishes, mow the lawn or take you out to a nice dinner – and he’ll eagerly agree! 

Of course, there is a reason this is called ‘tease and denial” and not simply teasing. The vast majority of the time that he does things for you, you need to say “no” when he asks for release. Tell him it just wasn’t quite good enough – but that you are sure he will do better next time. 

You do need to release him every so often – just enough so he always knows there is a chance that this time, he might not have to face the denial afterwards. 

Most wives start out by only denying for a couple days at a time while they are teasing him. Then they work it up to longer and longer periods of time as part of his ongoing training. Of course, the tease and denial tasks he will be given will also become more difficult to accomplish over time. 

I’ve found that the end goal of tease and denial should be to allow him to get his “little reward” every six weeks or so. With my partner, I make sure he ends up with less than 10 orgasms a year, though I have friends who are indulgent and allow them men up to 14 a year.

You’ll figure out what level of tease and denial works best for your wonderful male chastity belt relationship with a bit practice and experimentation.

Emergency Male Chastity Key

Hi, this is Mistress Sara. As you may know, I believe that male chastity is one of the only ways that a long-term heterosexual relationship can survive today. 

It is always better if a woman keeps her man under lock and key. Otherwise, he’ll end up cheating on her – either by masturbating while thinking about other women, or by giving into temptation and letting some hussy seduce him. 

Once a male chastity device has been put in place and locked up, the wife literally holds the key to his heart, sexuality and their relationship. But, of course, there are practical considerations. 

One of the most important ones is the need to have a spare male chastity key. The truth is that life is unpredictable. If you were to end up in the hospital or get into a bad accident, that could leave him locked up for much, much longer than expected with no way to get out. 

This would be particularly problematic if he was in a steel device that would require a welder for him to get out of. But, what do you do about the spare key? If you give it to him, you know he’ll use it to cheat and get out of the device. You don’t want to hide it. What if something were to happen to you? 

The solution is to find a trusted friend or family member to give it to. For most women, the best person to choose is your best gay friend. 

Gay men are generally non-judgmental about sex. Plus, if you give it to a female friend, she may decide she wants to sample your husband and unlock him for her own selfish desires. Your gay friend may have similar ideas, but your husband probably wouldn’t be willing to service him just to get out! And if he does, you can punish him and humiliate him for months afterward! 

If you don’t have a gay male friend, a trusted lesbian friend will work as well.

Of course, you don’t need to tell him whom you gave the spare too. Otherwise he might bug them for ages. And if you want to be particularly naughty, you could threaten to give it to his mother or his sister if he misbehaves! The last thing any man would want is for his mom to know the family jewels are locked up! 

Another possibility is to rent a safe deposit box and put the key in there. Then you could give the key to the safe deposit box to one of your friends, and tell him or her to give it to your husband only in the case of an emergency.

All of this is moot if you decide to take a lover while your husband is locked up. In this case, it should go without saying, your lover should hold the emergency male chastity key. This will help your husband psychologically understand that your sex life is no longer under his control, and let your lover know that you trust and respect his judgment. And, your lover is not likely to want to help your husband out of his beautiful enslavement unless he absolutely has to.

Can He Escape Without Your Male Chastity Key?

Men are devious creatures. Every woman knows that. It’s why we keep our eye on them. It’s also why so many women choose to put their man in male chastity in the first place. We know they lie to us about how often they masturbate, and about their thoughts of other women. Quite simply, men can’t be trusted – particularly when it comes to their penis! 

That’s why although many women want their man in chastity and under lock and key, they worry that he’ll find some way to pick the male chastity lock and escape without telling us. That would defeat the entire point of male chastity, ruin all of our training efforts and put him at risk for being seduced by some hussy! 

You know you don’t want that. But, don’t worry; the truth is it’s harder for a man to get out of a male chastity device without your key than you would think. Of course, it’s not impossible; but with a little bit of preparation, you should be able to lock him up in male chastity and hide the key without worrying about him being a bad boy. 

• The only way a man can really get out of a male chastity device is if you’ve purchased the wrong size for him. If he’s poorly endowed he might be able to use ice to shrink his penis, slip out and then slip it back on. That’s why it’s important for you to be honest with yourself about the size of his equipment and order one that will fit him. When it doubt, err on the smaller side. 
• The locks on male chastity devices are designed so that they will break if they are tampered with. And, best of all – the locks are numbered. That means that he can’t simply buy a similar looking lock, break his own and then lock himself back up with the new one. When you get your man his male chastity device, the number will be printed on both the lock and the key. Whenever you unlock him, make sure the numbers match! 
• He probably could break a plastic male chastity device with tools in his garage. But, the damage would be way obvious and he’d get caught. If you buy a steel one, he won’t even be able to do that. He’d have to go to a professional welder to get it off – and do you really think he’s going to admit to another man that you have him locked up? I think not! 
• If you are really worried about him having no self control at all and getting the thing welded off, you can always go all the way and get a chastity piercing. These piercings attach his penis directly to his testicles. If he tried to rip this off without the key, he’d severely damage his manly bits – and no man is going to risk that. 
• Most chastity devices come with keys that are labeled, “Do Not Copy.” That means even if he tried to sneak the key away for an afternoon, most locksmiths will refuse to make a copy of it.

So, there you have it! With a little bit of patience, you can improve your marriage by keeping your man in chastity and under lock and key without ever worrying about him getting out!

Obviously, some devices are more secure than others. But, once you get to the point where he’s comfortable being locked in steel – which should be every woman’s goal – it will be virtually impossible for him to get out. That means you can train him and never have to worry about him cheating. 

And, of course, if you ever notice him trying to get out, you could always enforce an extra month of chastity – which is a lesson he’ll remember for the rest of your wonderful married life!

Now That You Are Under Chastity Lock And Key What Happens Next?

Enforced male chastity may be the best thing that can happen to any marriage. When a man is locked into male chastity, he can be trained to be a better husband and lover, more romantic and much more helpful. Plus, you will never again have to worry about him wasting his time on porn; and silly, selfish things like masturbation are a thing of the past. 

Many men deep down inside know they would be much better off in a male chastity lock. Many women, once they hear about locking a man up in male chastity, see it as a perfect solution. But, one thing that holds many men back from agreeing to the lifestyle is that they wonder what will happen once they put the device on and are locked up. How will it change their lives? This makes sense. We all have a fear of the unknown. That’s why I want to let men get a better understanding of what will happen to them once they’ve made the right decision and given up control of their sexuality to their wives.

• First off, your wife will become more loving and attentive. She’ll dress sexier around you, give you more kisses and flirt with you more. Because you are now safe, she’ll want to tease you. Plus, because she’ll be so happy that you’re making this brave choice she’ll want to shower you with tons of affection.
• You’ll be intimate with your wife more often. Now that she doesn’t have to worry about sex being over as soon as you orgasm, she’ll be a lot friskier. You may find yourself giving her two or more orgasms a night. Won’t that be fun?
• Your orgasms will be much more intense. Right now your masturbation is desensitizing your penis. That means you are not getting the strong orgasms you should be. Once you are on a reasonable release schedule you’ll discover that you have the most amazing orgasms you’ve ever felt. Don’t you want that?
• You’ll discover new ways to please your wife. In fact, you’ll probably become the best lover she’s ever had. You’ll have to – because that’s one of the only ways you’ll earn your way out of your male chastity lock!
• Spending time with your friends will seem less and less important to you. Your main focus in life will become finding nice ways to make your wife or girlfriend happy. You’ll discover new levels of romantic love you may have never before thought possible.
• Over time you’ll be let out less and less often. For most couples, offering the man release once every four to six weeks is about right. But, don’t worry, you’ll always be sexually excited and you’ll learn to love how great it feels to be constantly turned on!
• You’ll discover you have a lot more free time on your hands. You probably don’t realize how much time you are currently wasting with masturbation, porn and sexual fantasies. You’ll be able to get a lot more done at work and around the house. You’ll feel so useful!
• Your wife will find ways to reward your good behavior and punish your bad behavior. Over time this will result in you becoming the husband of her dreams.
• You’ll no longer feel guilty about your silly little masturbation habit. You’ll feel like a real man who satisfies his woman rather than a little boy who plays with his pee-pee. You’ll finally be a grown-up! 

See, now that you know what to expect it’s not that scary, is it? In fact, it’s perfectly natural and soon you’ll thank your wife for making this decision for you, because she knew it was the best thing for your relationship.